Thea is 1 

It’s the eve of your birthday and one thing is clear

Team Caress have had an incredible year

Your arrival was shocking, the talk of the town

A story I am sure you will never live down

It’s been a year of many firsts, laughter, fun and smiles

The housewives of Heanor have talked and walked for miles and miles

There’s been many grow days, swimming and playgroup hooray

Then there’s brew at 2 nearly every single day

You have been so lucky all the friends that you have made

All those lovely babies with which you have played

Karson, Lyle, Charlie, Matthew, Sophie and Mila too

Not forgetting the big children who have enjoyed looking after you

This year has passed in such a blur it really is untrue
I have never met a baby with a personality like you

Your faces are legendary, ooohhh I couldn’t be so rude

And the way you give your dirty looks when you are in a mood

Your dancing is the best young lady, how you drop it low

We love your singing “la, la, la” when you put on a show

We call you the carb queen, little toot or baby tink 

You are a massive climber, so much braver than we think

You remind us of Doc Brown with your crazy crazy hair

Your beautiful blue eyes always cause a stir 

We love you baby princess, can’t believe a year has passed 

Our fourth team member, team caress are complete at last 

We love you Tinks to the moon and back – love Mummy, Daddy, Lennon and Brodie Dog 

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5 already!!!

So here it is – in advance of tomorrow. Lenny isn’t well so I knew I wouldn’t get any time to write anything tomorrow and didn’t want to miss what has become a tradition. x

 

So Mummy writes this little poem just like she does for you every year

There is no pressure then on me and no reason to feel fear

But as I start to write this year I feel a sense of dread

The years are flying past you see too fast for my head

 

I can’t believe five years have gone its been a whirlwind time

This is the fifth time I have blown up balloons and my fifth one of these rhymes

You have changed so much this year and it gives mummy happy tears

You have settled in at school so well despite all mummy’s fears

 

You have made a lovely bunch of friends and you are coming on so well

Your reading and writing are getting fantastic as your teachers tell

You are now a fantastic big brother to your sister little toot

You get on like a house on fire and you always make her hoot

 

You hold her really gently just as mummy’s tells you to

The only person who can make her belly laugh is you

I really don’t know how I would have managed with you, my helpful little man

Mummy’s wingman, but much more grown up, and I am your biggest fan

 

You never fail to amuse me, you really have a sense of humour

And apparently you have yourself a girlfriend and I know its not a rumour

You have picked a lovely girl that you are all set to make your wife

Lets hope that beautiful little Maisy doesn’t cause you strife

 

I love your little ways and the crazy way you play so well

Your imagination blows me away, much too complex to tell

I am so very very proud of you, every single day

Happy Birthday my little 5 year old is all that remains to say

 

Happy Birthday beautiful. Love you to the moon and back always. Sorry you are poorly on your birthday and I hope you feel much better soon x x

 

 

 

 

 

 

2016 A Fantastic Year

I sit here typing with Thea lying on the floor kicking around and Lenny busy playing on his Ipad. I make this somewhat pointless statement because it leads directly to one of my New Years Resolutions – I will feel less guilty. I have realised that I spend far too much time feeling guilty for spending too much/too little time with certain people (mostly the kids), and that I am always worrying that they are not happy. This year I am going to give myself a break and live in the moment more.

On reflection 2016 has been a stunner of a year. The year kicked off with us finding out that we were expecting a baby girl. Whilst it took Lenny almost an entire day to get over it, he wanted a brother, we were all (eventually) ecstatic. We spent the next four months agonising over names and buying stunning outfits – too many for her ever to wear.

This news was followed swiftly in February by my sisters announcement that she was also pregnant. My sister has a little boy already and there is 7 months separate Lenny and my nephew, there would now be 4 months separating our second born. This made pregnancy all the more exciting being able to share it with my sister and knowing that my little girl would have a little cousin to grow up with just like her brother before her.

I had the most beautiful baby shower/30th birthday bash with my wonderful lady friends. (Thank you to those friends who have remained close in 2016 you know who you are and you know how much I love you). It was the most uncivilised afternoon tea I have ever attended and it was just perfect. My mum and Auntie reformed their childhood Abba tribute and sang my guests a few songs. My 30th birthday was amazing and I was spoilt to death, albeit I was very heavily pregnant and, it being the summer, had the most disgusting elephant feet you have ever seen.

The summer holidays saw me become closer with a bunch of school mums (East 17). I don’t honestly know how I made it all this way in my life without them. They keep me sane and I am hoping our nights out together long continue along with our coffee mornings.

June was just perfect with my little girl arriving to complete my family. Her arrival was much anticipated and was absolutely mental, after she arrived in the GP’s toilets rather unexpectedly. Out of that arose a friendship with the midwife who delivered her that I hope continues into 2017 and beyond.

September saw Lenny start Reception. He has done absolutely amazing. It was such a crazy time for him with a new sister having just arrived and starting full time school. I spent the whole night before crying and concerned thinking he just wanted ready but I had completely underestimated him. He took it all in his stride bless him and hasn’t once refused to go – in fact he loves it – and he is coming along very nicely.

In October my nephew arrived and he is stunning. He is such a beautiful little addition to the family. The aftermath of the birth was traumatic and made me look on my sister with completely different eyes – she is so much braver than I ever gave her credit for and I am so so proud of her.

Lenny is an amazing big brother to his Little Toot and a fantastic cousin. I have really seen him grow this year and become more independent and so very caring towards his little sister. He has never once wished she wasn’t here and absolutely adores her. Thank you for being you – mummy’s little wingman forever.

Thea completes us even though we didn’t realise a piece was missing. She is incredible. She is funny and happy and so content. Thank you for sleeping through for mummy and daddy baby you have been marvellous.

As for me and Scott well, as I said last year, we are too solid for simple things to shake us. Scott has been amazing – supportive throughout my crazy birth and an amazing daddy. The bond that he has already formed with his little girl is beautiful to watch. Together we have become stronger and, despite having fell out of favour with a few people this year, we are better than ever and long may it continue. I love you Mr C and I always will.

2017 we are coming for you.

 

 

Lenny does school Christmas Disco

Thought it was worth blogging the conversation between Len and his Dad before he left for the Christmas Disco….

Len: If somebody starts looking at me and comes over to me and wants to dance with me because I look cool or something – that’s how it works.
Scott: What if you look for the girl that you like and ask them to dance?
Len didn’t have a response but needless to say with this outfit who wouldn’t think he looks cool 😂

The Birth Story – Second Time Around

So I know its taken a while to get around to posting this blog – the world is crazy with two kids but I will save that for another post.

We welcomed our new baby girl Thea Shay into the world on 29th June 2016. She was 2 days overdue and weighed in at 7lb 1.5oz. The birth story has proved to be very popular and much discussed and many people have asked when its going to appear on this blog – so here it is from the horse’s mouth so to speak.

In the weeks leading up to my due date I had been experienced really bad braxton hicks. On a few occasions they had kept me awake and had been so regular I swore I would be going into hospital and then they would just disappear. So when I woke up on 29th June, 2 days overdue and with my sweep booked for 2pm that day, with mild period pains I thought nothing of it.

I was getting a few pains all day but nothing much and not painful so, although I was timing them and they did seem to be regular, I had presumed they would just disappear like they had previously. Lenny finished pre-school at 11.45pm and it was raining so I had to run down to school to fetch him. At this point I was still getting pains but they clearly weren’t painful if I ran the school run.

My husband was between jobs at work so had decided to come home for a few hours to come to the sweep with me. By 1.30pm I was getting proper pains and this is probably the first time that I knew I was in labour – at this point though they weren’t bad and I believed that I would be at this hours. However, the app i had downloaded to track my contractions kept insisting that because they were coming with certain regularity I should ring the hospital. I rang the hospital at 1.30pm and they said that I wasn’t i established labour as I was able to talk through contractions and that I should have a hot bath and some paracetomol. I decided to go to see the midwife for my sweep at 2pm in the hope that this would speed things up and put me into proper labour.

We arrived in the car park of the doctors at around 1.55pm and I had quite a bad pain in the car but it can’t have been really bad because my husband was asking me how much the car park charge was whilst I was mid-contraction. (Idiot!). At this point I did say to my husband that I was defiantly getting somewhere and I would definitely be having the baby that day. I asked him to get the TENS machine out the back of the car (my hospital bag had been situated there since my due date which was wishful thinking on my part) and get this set up for after I came out from my sweep.

I got into the doctors waiting room and had quite a serious pain. The pain was accompanied by a gushing feeling and I told my husband that I needed to pop to the toilet and check things out. When I got into the toilet I realised I was bleeding quite bad. For some reason I rung my sister (who lives in Nottingham and really couldnt have been much help) and she told me to ring my husband to get the midwife. As soon as I got off the phone to my sister my contractions started coming thick and fast and were unbearable.

I managed to get hold of my husband and asked him to get the midwife and thought I needed to unlock the disabled toilet door. From there things went crazy. My midwife documents that at 2.10pm she was called out of surgery by Scott to say i was in the toilets having contractions. I think it was clear to the midwife, if not to me, that things were progressing very quickly and she rung an ambulance within a few minutes of coming into the toilet.

My midwife was absolutely fantastic and was the same midwife that had attended me throughout my pregnancy. When she checked me at 2.28pm I was fully dilated and she said to me that we would not have time to wait for an ambulance and that I needed to push on the next contraction. I really really didn’t want to have a baby in the toilets, as you can imagine, and I really really wanted some pain relief but there wasn’t any time and my little girl was born into the world at 2.37pm. The ambulance didn’t arrive until 2.55pm and the midwife sent them away by this point there was no need for them.

The midwife passed Thea up to me and she was attached to the placenta for some time whilst we were waiting for a cord clamp. Thea was wrapped in mine and my husbands jumpers as there wasn’t much else available.

I delivered the placenta naturally a little while later and left the doctors with my perfect little baby at 3.44pm and came straight home. As I was leaving the doctors the staff were cheering and blowing kisses out of the window and it was such an incredible and surreal moment it will stay with me forever. Needless to say Thea is quite the little VIP at the doctors surgery now.

Everyone who has heard this story asks me if it was really traumatic. The answer is no. The whole experience was incredible. I was so very lucky that the support team of my midwife and my husband was faultless. Throughout the whole experience they were both dead calm and reassuring and there was not a single moment of panic (from them) which meant that I stayed calm. My midwife knew instinctively what I needed and when and I could not have done it without her. I have heard often that the midwife you get in labour can dramatically change your birth experience and after this I would agree with this whole heartedly.

I am lucky enough to have remained friends with my midwife and I am hoping that this continues far into the future. She is considered a hero in my family and always will be.

If nothing else this will be a fantastic little story to tell Thea when she is older and I dare say we will be telling this story for years to come.

Welcome to the World *Little Toot*

And so its time, its here at last, its finally come around

You are here snuggled in Mummy’s arms, sleeping safe and sound

Although you kept me waiting two days past when you were due

You took us all quite by surprise arriving in the doctor’s loo

 

Luckily we had a fantastic team, an amazing team of two

Emma delivered you safely and daddy coached me through

Just 37 minutes from when we got into the waiting room

You came in to the world at 2.37pm arriving with a zoom

 

What a story, a tale to tell, you will never live it down

A legend at the doctor’s surgery and the talk of the whole town

But wow what a beauty you really are with features like a doll

Clearly your crazy entry didn’t take its toll

 

Your big brother couldn’t wait to meet you, he held you straight away

His first words were “she’s beautiful” and he stared at you all day

We spent a precious hour, Team Caress, as just us four

Fully assembled, now complete, and with you at our core

 

Your first week was just crazy, with a queue so very long

Of people eager to meet you with lots of love to make you strong

You have presents coming out your ears,  you are a lucky girl

Can’t wait to see you in your dresses giving us a twirl

 

You already know just how to get around your silly daddy

Chief picker-upper mummy calls him, Lennon calls him baddy

You really have completed us, our beautiful little baby

You get excited by Mr Light and kick your legs like crazy

 

 

Now we are the lucky ones, we get to see you grow

And we all love you so much more than you could ever know

 

** Little Toot is the nickname Lenny thought up for his little sister all by himself and its so cute its stuck!

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Loving two 

This poem isn’t mine – I came across this online and it was too beautiful not to share 

Loving Two 
I walk along holding your 2-year-old hand, basking in the glow of our magical relationship. Suddenly I feel a kick from within, as if to remind me that our time alone is limited. And I wonder: how could I ever love another child as I love you? 

Then she is born, and I watch you. I watch the pain you feel at having to share me as youve never shared me before. 

I hear you telling me in your own way, Please love only me. And I hear myself telling you in mine, I cant, knowing, in fact, that I never can again. 

You cry. I cry with you. I almost see our new baby as an intruder on the precious relationship we once shared. A relationship we can never quite have again. 

But then, barely noticing, I find myself attached to that new being, and feeling almost guilty. Im afraid to let you see me enjoying her as though I am betraying you. 

But then I notice your resentment change, first to curiosity, then to protectiveness, finally to genuine affection. 

More days pass, and we are settling into a new routine. The memory of days with just the two of us is fading fast. 

But something else is replacing those wonderful times we shared, just we two. There are new times only now, we are three. I watch the love between you grow, the way you look at each other, touch each other. 

I watch how she adores you as I have for so long. I see how excited you are by each of her new accomplishments. And I begin to realize that I havent taken something from you, Ive given something to you. I notice that I am no longer afraid to share my love openly with both of you. I find that my love for each of you is as different as you are, but equally strong. And my question is finally answered, to my amazement. Yes, I can love another child as much as I love you only differently. 

And although I realize that you may have to share my time, I now know youll never share my love. There is enough of that for both of you .you each have your own supply. 

I love you-both. And I thank you both for blessing my life. 

A poem for a big brother to be 

It’s coming close to the birth of your new little sis

And time alone with mummy I am sure you will miss

But guess what mummy can do she is a magician you see

She will steal away time just for you and for me 

At first your new sister will seem rather fun

But please be aware she can’t play yet or run

Quicker than you think she will be up on her feet

Taking turns in races to see who she can beat

Until that time she will need her big brother

It’s very important you look after one another 

She will need lots of cuddles, so much you can do

Help with nappies, soothing and bath time too

I know it’s seems a long time since mummy said she was due

I know the excitement and anticipation is wearing thin for you

But hang on in there sweetheart the end is in sight 

Soon the sounds of baby sisters cries will break through the night 

But please don’t worry you will always be mummy’s little man

And regardless of what you do mummy will always be your biggest fan

But you will have a new fan, a new little girl to love

I am sure the four of us, Team Caress, will fit like a glove

I can’t wait to see you with her I know you will be brill

Mummy’s wingman you will always be and my heart you’ll always fill

I know baby sister will enhance your life and be a whole new chapter

I know the journey along the way will be full of love and laughter 

Enjoy the journey mummy’s little man – love always mummy 

My boy is 4

I can’t believe the day is nearly here

It keeps swinging around so fast

Our last year at home together now

We had better make it last
It’s been four years, an amazing time

Mostly lots of laughter and fun

Winters spent sledging in the snow

Summers spent idling in the sun

September brings the start of school

God knows what I will do

Without my wingman by my side

It won’t be the same without you 

To say me and daddy are proud of you

Is the understatement of the year 

You are clever and insightful

Funny and often without fear

You still love all things super hero

Your imagination is second to none 

The way you play takes my breath away

Even when you attempt to con 

Everyone compliments your manners

And loves your superman curl

Your strong minded, strong willed a social butterfly

Sending your friends into a whirl

I can’t believe you are four little man

The time has just flown by

I will make sure to cuddle lots more times

And I promise to try not to cry

As you go off to school I know

I gave you a good start

Can’t wait to see you be a big brother 

And show that love from your massive heart

For now I say happy birthday Bob

We love you to the moon and back

Love mummy, daddy, bump and Brodie 

And your leopard gheko mack!